50 Questions That Will Free Your Mind

9 Nov

Something that got me thinking this morning so I wanted to share. I have highlighted the questions that particularly resonated with me, although I assume that everyone would respond differently.

(this post is from Marc and Angel Hack Life’s blog: http://www.marcandangel.com/2009/07/13/50-questions-that-will-free-your-mind/)

50 Questions That Will Free Your Mind (written by Marc)

These questions have no right or wrong answers.

Because sometimes asking the right questions is the answer.

  1. How old would you be if you didn’t know how old you are?
  2. Which is worse, failing or never trying?
  3. If life is so short, why do we do so many things we don’t like and like so many things we don’t do?
  4. When it’s all said and done, will you have said more than you’ve done?
  5. What is the one thing you’d most like to change about the world?
  6. If happiness was the national currency, what kind of work would make you rich?
  7. Are you doing what you believe in, or are you settling for what you are doing?
  8. If the average human life span was 40 years, how would you live your life differently?
  9. To what degree have you actually controlled the course your life has taken?
  10. Are you more worried about doing things right, or doing the right things?
  11. You’re having lunch with three people you respect and admire.  They all start criticizing a close friend of yours, not knowing she is your friend.  The criticism is distasteful and unjustified.  What do you do?
  12. If you could offer a newborn child only one piece of advice, what would it be?
  13. Would you break the law to save a loved one?
  14. Have you ever seen insanity where you later saw creativity?
  15. What’s something you know you do differently than most people?
  16. How come the things that make you happy don’t make everyone happy?
  17. What one thing have you not done that you really want to do?  What’s holding you back?
  18. Are you holding onto something you need to let go of?
  19. If you had to move to a state or country besides the one you currently live in, where would you move and why?
  20. Do you push the elevator button more than once?  Do you really believe it makes the elevator faster?
  21. Would you rather be a worried genius or a joyful simpleton?
  22. Why are you, you?
  23. Have you been the kind of friend you want as a friend?
  24. Which is worse, when a good friend moves away, or losing touch with a good friend who lives right near you?
  25. What are you most grateful for?
  26. Would you rather lose all of your old memories, or never be able to make new ones?
  27. Is is possible to know the truth without challenging it first?
  28. Has your greatest fear ever come true?
  29. Do you remember that time 5 years ago when you were extremely upset?  Does it really matter now?
  30. What is your happiest childhood memory?  What makes it so special?
  31. At what time in your recent past have you felt most passionate and alive?
  32. If not now, then when?
  33. If you haven’t achieved it yet, what do you have to lose?
  34. Have you ever been with someone, said nothing, and walked away feeling like you just had the best conversation ever?
  35. Why do religions that support love cause so many wars?
  36. Is it possible to know, without a doubt, what is good and what is evil?
  37. If you just won a million dollars, would you quit your job?
  38. Would you rather have less work to do, or more work you actually enjoy doing?
  39. Do you feel like you’ve lived this day a hundred times before?
  40. When was the last time you marched into the dark with only the soft glow of an idea you strongly believed in?
  41. If you knew that everyone you know was going to die tomorrow, who would you visit today?
  42. Would you be willing to reduce your life expectancy by 10 years to become extremely attractive or famous?
  43. What is the difference between being alive and truly living?
  44. When is it time to stop calculating risk and rewards, and just go ahead and do what you know is right?
  45. If we learn from our mistakes, why are we always so afraid to make a mistake?
  46. What would you do differently if you knew nobody would judge you?
  47. When was the last time you noticed the sound of your own breathing?
  48. What do you love?  Have any of your recent actions openly expressed this love?
  49. In 5 years from now, will you remember what you did yesterday?  What about the day before that?  Or the day before that?
  50. Decisions are being made right now.  The question is:  Are you making them for yourself, or are you letting others make them for you?

 

Psychoanalysis of the self

30 Mar

In astrology they discovered a comet with an erratic orbit which they called Chiron; Chiron the wounded healer. Each of us has a Chiron, an achilles heal, a deep wound that may never be healed. It is this wound that we strive our whole lives to heal and in doing so we learn the art of healing and therefore, while we may not ever fully heal ourselves we may learn to heal others.

If I am right, my Chiron is in Taurus, meaning a wound of neglect. For me this means I am prone to feelings of loneliness, I can be loved by others but I find it hard to understand my substance when I strip away accomplishments, abilities, achievements… what is left? It has taken me a long time to believe I have an inner self that has worth unto itself when you strip away the accoutrements that create my outer shell. 

When I was very young, my mother took my twin sister and I to preschool for the first time. Upon arrival my sister spotted a little boy, who in my memory was maybe Lebanese or African, she ran over and instantly struck up a friendship which held her in good stead for the next two years. In fact, I think she also met her primary school best friend whilst still in preschool. I, on the other hand, proceeded to cry. The good ladies of the preschool, having seen it all before, informed my mother that it was normal for children to cry when left for the first time and that as soon she was out of sight I would perk up and go and play with the other children. On this advice my mother left me. Several hours later, on her return, she found me huddled in a corner still hiccuping away through my tears, bright red spots on my forehead (a makeshift birthmark I have when I cry to make up for the lack of any real birthmark).

As a result of that incident my sister went to preschool for a full year longer than I did. I was allowed to stay home providing I would sit quietly with my mother so she could have some time to herself to read and relax, which of course I could having always been a daydreamer.

I don’t suppose there’s any moral to that story except that it serves to illustrate the self-indulgent depths of despair that I can sometimes allow myself to fall so completely into.

Today is a slightly overcast day, which lends itself to a sort of melancholy introspection. I wouldn’t say I’m sad, just slightly distant. And my thoughts are with that part of myself that can be so lonely, so alone, even when surrounded by those who love me. The part that questions how anyone could truly love someone like me, someone who isn’t perfect despite my best efforts, someone vague and forgetful and not critical or analytical enough. As I said, it has taken a long time for me to start to believe that the things you care about are what create a self.

Added to these underlying causes I am currently reading The Unbearable Lightness of Being and To Define True Madness, both of which add to a desire to self-analyse. Which brings me to the motivation for this post. My sister thinks I should see a psychologist, not in a bad way but because this loneliness resurfaces throughout my life and maybe by talking to someone I can heal it. I’m not sure whether or not that is the case. Some people swear by psychologists, for me it’s seems like an expensive and time consuming venture, to unravel your soul with a stranger on a couch. So I wonder, what does a psychologist truly do? If they are only there to listen than isn’t this forum as good as any a place to start? What questions would I have to ask myself to understand the depths of my soul and heal them?

50 Questions That Will Free Your Mind

11 Nov

Something that got me thinking this morning so I wanted to share. I have highlighted the questions that particularly resonated with me, although I assume that everyone would respond differently.

(this post is from Marc and Angel Hack Life’s blog:http://www.marcandangel.com/2009/07/13/50-questions-that-will-free-your-mind/)

50 Questions That Will Free Your Mind (written by Marc)

These questions have no right or wrong answers.

Because sometimes asking the right questions is the answer.

  1. How old would you be if you didn’t know how old you are?
  2. Which is worse, failing or never trying?
  3. If life is so short, why do we do so many things we don’t like and like so many things we don’t do?
  4. When it’s all said and done, will you have said more than you’ve done?
  5. What is the one thing you’d most like to change about the world?
  6. If happiness was the national currency, what kind of work would make you rich?
  7. Are you doing what you believe in, or are you settling for what you are doing?
  8. If the average human life span was 40 years, how would you live your life differently?
  9. To what degree have you actually controlled the course your life has taken?
  10. Are you more worried about doing things right, or doing the right things?
  11. You’re having lunch with three people you respect and admire.  They all start criticizing a close friend of yours, not knowing she is your friend.  The criticism is distasteful and unjustified.  What do you do?
  12. If you could offer a newborn child only one piece of advice, what would it be?
  13. Would you break the law to save a loved one?
  14. Have you ever seen insanity where you later saw creativity?
  15. What’s something you know you do differently than most people?
  16. How come the things that make you happy don’t make everyone happy?
  17. What one thing have you not done that you really want to do?  What’s holding you back?
  18. Are you holding onto something you need to let go of?
  19. If you had to move to a state or country besides the one you currently live in, where would you move and why?
  20. Do you push the elevator button more than once?  Do you really believe it makes the elevator faster?
  21. Would you rather be a worried genius or a joyful simpleton?
  22. Why are you, you?
  23. Have you been the kind of friend you want as a friend?
  24. Which is worse, when a good friend moves away, or losing touch with a good friend who lives right near you?
  25. What are you most grateful for?
  26. Would you rather lose all of your old memories, or never be able to make new ones?
  27. Is is possible to know the truth without challenging it first?
  28. Has your greatest fear ever come true?
  29. Do you remember that time 5 years ago when you were extremely upset?  Does it really matter now?
  30. What is your happiest childhood memory?  What makes it so special?
  31. At what time in your recent past have you felt most passionate and alive?
  32. If not now, then when?
  33. If you haven’t achieved it yet, what do you have to lose?
  34. Have you ever been with someone, said nothing, and walked away feeling like you just had the best conversation ever?
  35. Why do religions that support love cause so many wars?
  36. Is it possible to know, without a doubt, what is good and what is evil?
  37. If you just won a million dollars, would you quit your job?
  38. Would you rather have less work to do, or more work you actually enjoy doing?
  39. Do you feel like you’ve lived this day a hundred times before?
  40. When was the last time you marched into the dark with only the soft glow of an idea you strongly believed in?
  41. If you knew that everyone you know was going to die tomorrow, who would you visit today?
  42. Would you be willing to reduce your life expectancy by 10 years to become extremely attractive or famous?
  43. What is the difference between being alive and truly living?
  44. When is it time to stop calculating risk and rewards, and just go ahead and do what you know is right?
  45. If we learn from our mistakes, why are we always so afraid to make a mistake?
  46. What would you do differently if you knew nobody would judge you?
  47. When was the last time you noticed the sound of your own breathing?
  48. What do you love?  Have any of your recent actions openly expressed this love?
  49. In 5 years from now, will you remember what you did yesterday?  What about the day before that?  Or the day before that?
  50. Decisions are being made right now.  The question is:  Are you making them for yourself, or are you letting others make them for you?
Aside

Feeling sorry for myself…

11 Nov

I woke up feeling so sad today. I think I’m lonely being back and I’m haunted by feelings of stupidity. I don’t really understand why but I just can’t express myself. When I speak no one seems to understand what I’m saying. I went out with my sister and her friend last night and I can see the old patterns of childhood communication. My sister is very smart and she can talk for a long time without taking a break. She gets upset when I interrupt her so I try really hard not to but I guess by the time she stops everyone wants to speak because when I start talking people stop me two words in to ask a question and then go off on a tangent and I’m not really sure if maybe my difficulties expressing myself are rooted in the fact that I was never allowed to finish a sentence as a child so I just don’t have much practice… and then I overcompensate by trying to simplify things down into a brief interjection but even that doesn’t work… I feel stupid and at a complete loss as to how I can improve on this. How can I make what I say clearer, be able to finish what I’m saying, be interesting enough that people want to listen?

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